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	<title>Comments on: Successful = Alone</title>
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		<title>by: ninjanun</title>
		<link>http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2006/07/successful-alone/#comment-1497</link>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Jul 2006 22:50:06 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Woah.  I didn't realize it, but after reading your post, I think I suffer from a lot of the same thinking. I think # 1 and #2 especially are related to my desire to be accepted by other females, and how I've always felt I didn't score so well in that regard, because I was too much of a latent feminist by default (the whole, &quot;being successful where boys are supposed to be&quot; thing).

Also, I read &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/Depression_Information/symptoms.htm&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;this website on depresssion&lt;/a&gt;, which says basically that people like us are depressed because we ruminate on ourselves, our past, and our situations too much, and apply a negative, &quot;all-or-nothing&quot; approach; downplaying the good in our lives and imagining the worst possible reason for every circumstance we find ourselves in (such as me thinking my friends didn't want to hang out with me, rather than just trust the reasons they themselves gave).  It was really eye-opening, but at the same time was encouraging and challenges me to try to &quot;reframe&quot; my thought process to think differently.  There was also a lot of stuff in their about how this negative thinking that permeates everything we do affects our health (and thus, physical symptoms of depression occur).  It was a good thing for me to read.  

Sounds like you're taking steps in the right direction to get past this.  I wish I could talk with a therapist, too.  I know what I need to do, but I think it would be easier for me if I had some outside help to keep me accountable and push me in the right direction more often.  

E-mail me if you ever wanna talk! :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Woah.  I didn&#8217;t realize it, but after reading your post, I think I suffer from a lot of the same thinking. I think # 1 and #2 especially are related to my desire to be accepted by other females, and how I&#8217;ve always felt I didn&#8217;t score so well in that regard, because I was too much of a latent feminist by default (the whole, &#8220;being successful where boys are supposed to be&#8221; thing).</p>
<p>Also, I read <a href="http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/Depression_Information/symptoms.htm" rel="nofollow">this website on depresssion</a>, which says basically that people like us are depressed because we ruminate on ourselves, our past, and our situations too much, and apply a negative, &#8220;all-or-nothing&#8221; approach; downplaying the good in our lives and imagining the worst possible reason for every circumstance we find ourselves in (such as me thinking my friends didn&#8217;t want to hang out with me, rather than just trust the reasons they themselves gave).  It was really eye-opening, but at the same time was encouraging and challenges me to try to &#8220;reframe&#8221; my thought process to think differently.  There was also a lot of stuff in their about how this negative thinking that permeates everything we do affects our health (and thus, physical symptoms of depression occur).  It was a good thing for me to read.  </p>
<p>Sounds like you&#8217;re taking steps in the right direction to get past this.  I wish I could talk with a therapist, too.  I know what I need to do, but I think it would be easier for me if I had some outside help to keep me accountable and push me in the right direction more often.  </p>
<p>E-mail me if you ever wanna talk! <img src='http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />
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