Comments on: Fatherly Overprotectiveness, Date Rape

by: Disturbing at Oh, for the love of God…

Wed, 13 Sep 2006 16:45:34 +0000

[…] Someone came across this post when googling the phrase, “I was raped and loved it.” […]

by: carolyn

Mon, 17 Jul 2006 10:22:56 +0000

Thank you so much for your stories. I am 27 and a mother of two now. My husband suspected that I was date raped, but I was in so much denial since it didn’t happen like the violent after school specials. And all the websites I’ve searched for date rape never quite addressed “pressured sex” or not having said yes like you did. It happened when I was 17 I told my boyfriend at the time that I would only have sex with my husband and he knew everything that implied. Yet on several occassions he pressured and begged me with “oh please I just want to lie with you naked” then one night I gave in and allowed him to “snuggle” and without my consent and after several “no’s” he came into me, and the stupid thing was that I wasn’t even sure what had happened was sex until it was too late. I attempted to make things “right” by staying with him 5 years thinking that he would marry me but then he dumped me. Through out the relationship and still years after I have felt a deep resentment and hatered towards him and regret having placing myself in such a position. I believe that my current relationship with my husband is forever changed by my past.

by: Jenny

Tue, 09 May 2006 21:56:48 +0000

When I read the post about how you came to be Maya’s mother, I read your story and interpreted what happened as date rape. You consented to kissing not intercourse. There is so much grey area surrounding consent, and I can understand why you would still feel that it was your fault, but in the end, what he did was wrong and what you did wasn’t.

by: Alli

Fri, 05 May 2006 15:46:45 +0000

Hi Anne, and welcome!

I found Hugo’s and HF’s blogs on pretty much the same day, and now find myself drawn back to read and comment way more often than I probably should. Eh, should, schmould.

(Had to laugh when I read Hugo’s post about student crushes…I already have one–an innocent one, really–on him, myself.)

Love the name of your blog; I started my first “modern” (ie, post-2000, rather than a short-lived 1998 Xanga) blog for pretty much the same reason, trying to figure things (and myself) out.

by: anne

Fri, 05 May 2006 15:34:03 +0000

You make good points here… I followed that comment thread too. Great discussion.

Hi there - I’m Anne… I found you via Hugo’s blog!