Comments on: The battle of SAHM versus WOHM http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/ Deities. Dogma. Dating. Diapers. Wed, 07 Jan 2009 08:18:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: Layla http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-94 Fri, 26 Aug 2005 21:48:27 +0000 http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-94 Hey Allison, Nice to see you posting again, missed you. I have a very hard time not getting defensive when it comes to SAHMs and their attitude that seems to suggest they are better mothers because they sacrafice to stay home OR they homeschool (can't let the kids out into the big bad world) or whatever.... You and I share the commonality that we are the SOLE supporters and care-givers of our children. How are we suppose to get by without a job? I don't work as a hobby or to get away from my son or to socialize. I work to pay the friggin bills and support myself and my kid. This is one reason Dr. Laura pisses me off. Anyhow, you have a better attitude than I do on this. Hey Allison,

Nice to see you posting again, missed you. I have a very hard time not getting defensive when it comes to SAHMs and their attitude that seems to suggest they are better mothers because they sacrafice to stay home OR they homeschool (can’t let the kids out into the big bad world) or whatever….

You and I share the commonality that we are the SOLE supporters and care-givers of our children. How are we suppose to get by without a job? I don’t work as a hobby or to get away from my son or to socialize. I work to pay the friggin bills and support myself and my kid.

This is one reason Dr. Laura pisses me off. Anyhow, you have a better attitude than I do on this.

]]> by: Bad Alice http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-93 Fri, 26 Aug 2005 18:43:47 +0000 http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-93 Yep, it seems she was trying to be nice and acknowledge your difficulties, and yet really flubbed it. Sometimes the rich are just out of it. She may be in for a rude awakening-or not. I hope you find what you need in the way of income, whether a boom in home business or an outside job. It's hard to find affordable quality daycare. I think half my income goes to it. Yep, it seems she was trying to be nice and acknowledge your difficulties, and yet really flubbed it. Sometimes the rich are just out of it. She may be in for a rude awakening-or not. I hope you find what you need in the way of income, whether a boom in home business or an outside job. It’s hard to find affordable quality daycare. I think half my income goes to it.

]]> by: Alli http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-92 Fri, 26 Aug 2005 17:54:23 +0000 http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-92 I've seen those sorts before...yuck. I know enough moms who'd LOVE to be home with their kids but, for whatever reason, simply can't. Honestly, it's no one else's business why -- people should simply accept the answer that staying at home isn't an option. One friend of mine, for instance, has massive student loans -- along the lines of a mortgage payment. While she loves that she has a masters and a JD...I know she'd love to spend some additional time with her son. What made this really weird in my case...is that I'm SINGLE. It's not like I have someone else to support us -- it's ME. I've done the work-at-home and simulateously-manage-the-child routine now for 10 months (I took a month off), and it doesn't quite work, at least not in my current position. I’ve seen those sorts before…yuck. I know enough moms who’d LOVE to be home with their kids but, for whatever reason, simply can’t. Honestly, it’s no one else’s business why — people should simply accept the answer that staying at home isn’t an option. One friend of mine, for instance, has massive student loans — along the lines of a mortgage payment. While she loves that she has a masters and a JD…I know she’d love to spend some additional time with her son.

What made this really weird in my case…is that I’m SINGLE. It’s not like I have someone else to support us — it’s ME. I’ve done the work-at-home and simulateously-manage-the-child routine now for 10 months (I took a month off), and it doesn’t quite work, at least not in my current position.

]]> by: Bad Alice http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-91 Fri, 26 Aug 2005 17:46:28 +0000 http://ftlog.meanderwithme.com/2005/08/338/#comment-91 Oh, been in those shoes. I can't tell you how many Christian home-schooling moms have eyed me with pity because I have to work, and even suggested ever so delicately that perhaps we're just a bit greedy if we aren't able to live on one income. I'm exagerating only a teensy bit. A woman did actually tell me that she thought most parents who decide that mom should work are just greedy. I've "overheard" loud conversations about how daycare harms children. I've been thrown as a sop the line "Oh well of course in some situations . . ." Aargh. Oh, been in those shoes. I can’t tell you how many Christian home-schooling moms have eyed me with pity because I have to work, and even suggested ever so delicately that perhaps we’re just a bit greedy if we aren’t able to live on one income. I’m exagerating only a teensy bit. A woman did actually tell me that she thought most parents who decide that mom should work are just greedy. I’ve “overheard” loud conversations about how daycare harms children. I’ve been thrown as a sop the line “Oh well of course in some situations . . .” Aargh.

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